Forms Of Love

LOve

     is an emotion that keeps people bonded and committed to one another. From an evolutionary psychology perspective, love evolved to keep the parents of children together long enough for them to survive and reach sexual maturity. The period of childhood is much longer for humans than for other species. As offspring rely on adults for many years to survive and to develop the skills and abilities needed for successful living, love is especially important for humans.

Without love, it’s difficult to see how the human species could have evolved.

The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love.

Types of love to understand your relationship :

Agape 

Agape is the term that defines God's immeasurable, incomparable love for humankind. It is his ongoing, outgoing, self-sacrificing concern for lost and fallen people. God gives this love without condition, unreservedly to those who are undeserving and inferior to himself. Agape is the highest level of love to offer. It's given without any expectations of receiving anything in return. Agape is a one-way form of love from God to people. ... Scott (1993) contends that Agape is a noun-form of love whereas Agapao is a verb-form of love.

Eros

Eros is a primal love that comes as a natural instinct for most people. It's a passionate love displayed through physical affection. These romantic behaviors include, but are not limited to, kissing, hugging, and holding hands. This love is a desire for another person's physical body

Philia

Philia — Affectionate Love. Philia is love without romantic attraction and occurs between friends or family members. It occurs when both people share the same values and respect each other — it's commonly referred to as “brotherly love

Stroge

It is an infinite love built upon acceptance and deep emotional connection. This love comes easily and immediately in parent and child relationships. Your memories encourage long-lasting bonds with another individual. As you create more memories, the value of your relationship increases.

Pragma

Pragma is love built on commitment, understanding, and long-term best interests, like building a family. Over time, eros can turn into pragma as a couple grows to honor, respect, and cherish each other, accepting of differences and learning to compromise. It is everlasting love rooted in romantic feelings and companion.

Ludus

Ludus (playful love) Ludus is very flirtatious and fun, without the strings that come with eros or pragma. It can be seen in the very early stages of relationships when two people are flirting, courting each other, and crushing on each other. It often involves laughing, teasing and feeling giddy around a person

Mania

Mania is an obsessive love towards a partner. It leads to unwanted jealousy or possessiveness known as codependency. Most cases of obsessive love are found in couples with an imbalance of love towards each other. An imbalance of Eros and Ludus is the main cause of Mania

Philautia

Philautia is a healthy form of love where you recognize your self-worth and don't ignore your personal needs. Self-love begins with acknowledging your responsibility for your well-being. It's challenging to exemplify the outbound types of love because you can't offer what you don't have.

Three stages of love

Lust

When you're in the stage of lust, you feel physically attracted and drawn to to the object of your affection. You want to seduce them (or be seduced). There may be an element of mystery or an intensity that makes things exciting—imagine a hot one-nightstand.

Attraction

During the attraction phase, couples are heady in love and are overcome with their feelings. Typically people can't think of anything else—forgetting to eat and sleep. There are important neuro-transmitters that come into play during this stage.

Attachment 

The attachment phase helps couples grow bonds and feel connected to each other. It is where people decide to depend on their partner. Two hormones come into play here: Oxytocin – This is also called the 'cuddle hormone because it is released when we are touched, make eye contact, and feel connected to someone.

"Love is the whole thing. We are only pieces." Rumi 

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